OAK TREE MEDIATION RESOURCE LIBRARY
You did not plan on divorce when you got married. But now you are facing it. You need to know what is ahead for both of you and your children.
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This page offers resources to help you find information that you can use. We are not trying to be exhaustive. We think a few, well-selected sources can get you started. With that, you will be able to understand what information you may need to build an understanding of your own relationship and how it can move forward.
As couples move through the process of separation and divorce, there is an atmosphere around them that people often find difficult to describe. They are lost, frightened about the future, disoriented as to what happens next, just wanting to have it over.
A better way to approach separation is to prepare. Seek information and understanding. There is a process of divorce which is very different from the realities of divorce. Sadly, when couples do not understand this, they get caught in the court system, and they set themselves up as adversaries.
This was our experience when we first worked with divorcing couples. One of the first cases we worked on together was not mediation. After a long period of accusations, fighting, court appearances by the attorneys, and $500,000 spent on fees and court costs, it was over, and the spousal support continues to this day.
In another case, the meeting began as mediation, and then someone knocked on the door. A man came in and handed the husband a summons. No one expected that but the couple almost got pulled into court by an attorney’s mistake.
Use these links to educate yourself and to prepare for your future, regardless of your ultimate outcome.
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